Looking after a baby can be really tiring, especially in the first few months after the birth, when your child is likely to wake several times during the night.
Most parents cope with a certain level of tiredness. But if you're feeling low, bad tempered and unable to cope or enjoy things, you need to find a way of getting more sleep, or at least more rest.
Check out this video from ICONCope for some parent relaxation tips to try
If you are finding it difficult to cope please reach out to your health visitor or GP for support.
Looking after children can make you tired but lifestyle factors including stress, not enough sleep and poor diet can all contribute to your tiredness. Try these self-help tips to restore your energy levels.
If you feel you're suffering from fatigue, which is an overwhelming tiredness that isn't relieved by rest and sleep, you may have an underlying medical condition. Consult a GP for advice.
Eat often to beat tiredness
A good way to keep up your energy through the day is to eat regular meals and healthy snacks every 3 to 4 hours, rather than a large meal less often.
Read more about healthy eating.
You might feel that exercise is the last thing on your mind. But, in fact, regular exercise will make you feel less tired in the long run, so you'll have more energy.
Even a single 15-minute walk can give you an energy boost, and the benefits increase with more frequent physical activity.
Start with a small amount of exercise. Build it up gradually over weeks and months until you reach the recommended goal of 2 hours 30 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic exercise, such as cycling or fast walking, every week.
Read more about starting exercise.
Find out the physical activity guidelines for adults.
Lose weight to gain energy
If your body is carrying excess weight, it can be exhausting. It also puts extra strain on your heart, which can make you tired. Lose weight and you'll feel much more energetic.
Apart from eating healthily, the best way to lose weight and keep it off is to be more active and do more exercise.
Read more about how to lose weight.
Many people don't get the sleep they need to stay alert through the day.
The website of the Royal College of Psychiatrists has information on sleeping well.
Tips for sleeping well include:
• going to bed and getting up in the morning at the same time every day
• avoiding naps in the day
• taking time to relax before you go to bed
Reduce stress to boost energy
Stress uses up a lot of energy. Try to introduce relaxing activities into your day. This could be:
• working out at the gym
• yoga or tai chi
• listening to music or reading
• spending time with friends
Whatever relaxes you will improve your energy.
Read more about how to relieve stress.
Talking therapy beats fatigue
There's some evidence that talking therapies such as counselling or cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) might help to fight fatigue, or tiredness caused by stress, anxiety or low mood.
Hillingdon Talking Therapies service is available for all over 18 who are registered with a Hillingdon GP.
Cut out caffeine
The Royal College of Psychiatrists recommends that anyone feeling tired should cut out caffeine. It says the best way to do this is to gradually stop having all caffeine drinks over a 3-week period.
Caffeine is found in:
• energy drinks
• some painkillers and herbal remedies
Try to stay off caffeine completely for a month to see if you feel less tired without it.
You may find that not consuming caffeine gives you headaches. If this happens, cut down more slowly on the amount of caffeine that you drink.
Drink less alcohol
Although a couple of glasses of wine in the evening can help you fall asleep, you sleep less deeply after drinking alcohol. The next day you'll be tired, even if you sleep a full 8 hours.
Cut down on alcohol before bedtime. You'll get a better night's rest and have more energy.
The NHS recommends that men and women should not regularly drink more than 14 units a week, which is equivalent to 6 pints of average-strength beer or 10 small glasses of low-strength wine.
Try to have several alcohol-free days each week.
Read more about how to cut down on alcohol.
Drink more water for better energy
Sometimes you feel tired simply because you're mildly dehydrated. A glass of water will do the trick, especially after exercise.
Read about healthy drinks.
• If you're feeling really tired and struggling to cope, talk to your GP or health visitor.
• Cry-sis offers advice on coping with a crying or restless baby. You can call their helpline on 08451 228 669. It's open 7 days a week from 9am to 10pm.
• Family Lives has a free helpline you can call for information and support on parenting or family issues. The number is 0808 800 2222 and it's open Monday to Friday, 9am to 9pm, and Saturday and Sunday, 10am to 3pm.
• Home-Start offers support to parents and carers through a parent-helper visiting scheme. Contact your local Home-Start.